Cocoon

With our due date just a few short weeks away, John and I are beginning to go into cocoon mode. Basically, this means that we are looking inward and going into a very peaceful place together. We are thinking happy thoughts, going for long walks, trying to stay rested, and setting an intention for a healthy birthing experience.

Perhaps, more relevant is to explain what it doesn't mean. Cocoon mode doesn't mean - talking about dark things, having long discussions about things we may have done wrong to you in the past, or getting harassed by everyone we know about how things are progressing (i.e. if the baby has come yet). When Isabella was born we felt bombarded with all kinds of energy from many of the people around us. There were people trying to force unwanted birthing advice on us, people constantly asking "how's it going? is the baby coming yet? shouldn't the baby have come by now?", and there were too many unannounced visitors. We had family members stopping by saying "I heard you were in labor, where's the baby?" and students/friends stopping by saying "Where's the baby? I thought you were due last week? What's wrong?". Trust me, these sorts of disturbances were not helpful. If you were one of the offenders then don't worry - you weren't the only one!

Now don't get me wrong... you are welcome to ask us about the weather, join me for long walks around the city while Isabella is in pre-school, ask me what fun things (like the zoo) i've been doing with Isabella this week, etc. Just don't pop by unannounced, initiate a conversation about the war, launch into a discussion about some way that I have wronged you, or ask me if the baby is coming soon! The baby could come any time between now and a month from now... that's all we know. When the baby is born, we will call immediate family members and email everyone else. If you are worried that you won't get the email, then feel free to remind us that you would like to be on the list. So in other words - you will know about the baby's arrival when we know, and until then don't bug us about the baby!

Thanks for supporting us in our intention to prepare for a peaceful and healthy birth.